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Prayerful Lovemaking

December 28, 2011
Osho („Rajneesh“ Chandra Mohan Jain)

Osho

Never get intimate when in anguish, says Osho

We get into sex with an attitude of condemnation, with a feeling of guilt, and we fail to feel the existence of the Creator. One should never approach sex while one is in anguish, in spite, in jealousy, in indignation; one should never approach sex filled with worries or in an unclean atmosphere. But the general practice is the contrary. The more one is full of anger, dejected, in torment or in despair, the more one moves into sex. 

A cheerful man does not chase sex, but a sorrowful man moves into sex because he sees it as the perfect escape from his unhappiness. But remember, if you approach sex with bitterness, irritation, condemnation or in sadness, you will never attain to that contentment, to that realisation for which your entire soul thirsts.

I urge you to move into sex only when you are cheerful, only when you are full of love and, last but not least, only when you are prayerful. Only when you feel that your heart is full of joy, peace and gratitude, should you think of having intercourse. A man who has intercourse like this can attain sublimation, and the ultimate realisation, even once, is enough to free one from sex forever. With one single experience, you can break through the barrier and enter the periphery of samadhi.

 

Re-experiencing Unity

 

Everyone wants to indulge in the communion of love; everyone wants to reunite with the stream of life — and that unity comes in the consummation of the sexual act for it is the re-experience of the original unity.

The coupling of two individuals has a very deep significance: the ego evaporates in this assimilation of two human beings. A person who really understands the essence of this unity, of this longing for love and oneness, can also comprehend the meaning of yet another kind of unity — a yogi unites; an ascetic unites; a saint unites; a meditator unites.

A person is also united in intercourse: his identity merges with that of the other person, and they become one. In samadhi, a person unites with the whole universe and becomes one with it. In sex there is a merging of two persons, whereas in samadhi, a person loses his identity and becomes one with the universe. A meeting between two persons is temporary, but the union of a person with the universe is eternal.

Nothing Is Permanent

Any two people are finite beings, and hence their union cannot be infinite, cannot be ever-lasting. And there is the rub; there is the limitation of matrimony, and of physical love: we cannot unite forever. We come together for a moment of ecstasy, but again we have to be separate. The separation is painful and so lovers are in a continuous state of despair. The other person seems to be the cause of this feeling of dejection, of this sense of aloneness, and irritation erupts in the relationship.

Wise men will say that two people have two basically different identities and that they can meet temporarily but cannot remain fused forever, even spiritually; that it is out of this unquenchable passion that a conflict arises between lovers and that one starts despising the other; that tension, strife, a feeling of alienation and even a feeling of hatred creeps in, and that it is because one imagines the other is probably unwilling and so the merger is not complete. But no individual can be blamed for this incompleteness. Human beings are finite beings and their merging can only be finite. Their merging cannot be forever.

Completing The Circuit

 

Man and woman are two different poles, the positive and the negative poles of energy. A right meeting of those two poles completes a circuit and produces a kind of electricity. A couple experiencing this electrical current of energy is drinking life’s fullest cup.

From Sex To Superconsciousness, courtesy: Osho International Foundation. 

 

Love has three possibilities: sex, the lowest; love, higher than sex; and prayer, the highest. – Osho

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